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This is an easy but incredibly powerful exercise for you if you had a critical, judgemental parent.
Having had a strong, critical, harsh voice from your mum, dad or other caregivers growing up has significant impacts on your entire life.
Those experiences result in continuing challenges in your life as an adult.
Things like…
People-pleasing
Being afraid to say no
Wanting to do everything for everyone
Anxiety
Issues sleeping
Depression
Lack of motivation
Underachieving
Sabotaging
Perfectionism, and so much more.
There are so many benefits for us in letting go of some of past hurt; and taking responsibility for our own healing, and empowering ourselves to change the way we see ourselves and our lives.
It’s easier if you watch the video in order to follow along this tapping/EFT exercise, but if you’re familiar with tapping and would prefer to read the script and tap instead, here it is:
Even though my mother criticises and judges me, and it hurts every time she does it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself (repeat another two times)
It upsets me when she’s critical and judgemental and condescending
Nothing’s ever good enough for her
I feel like I’m not good enough for her
I feel rejected
She’s always trying to bring me down
Which hurts me so much
And this runs right back into the past, through my childhood
So much hurt and sadness and rejection
So much anger and resentment
It doesn’t matter what I do, it’s never been good enough for her
It will never be good enough for her
It hurts when my mum judges and disapproves of me
That look of disapproval on her face
Those snide remarks and comments
I’ve got all these feelings of not being good enough
Never living up to her standards
Not being worthy in her eyes
All this pain and sadness
All the confusion and shame and blame
So much shame that I’m not good enough
I blame myself for not being good enough
All these painful memories and emotions
All the pain and heartache throughout my childhood
Younger me, my inner child, is still hurting
All she wants is her mum’s approval
And acceptance and love
All those times she put me down
And made me feel I wasn’t enough
Why did she have to do this to me?
I was so little
I was innocent
I didn’t do anything wrong
I just wanted my mum’s love
And I got criticism and judgement instead
I honour that younger part of me and everything she suffered now
I’m letting her know that she is safe
I accept her exactly as she is
I unconditionally love her
She is loveable
She is worthy
I approve of her
And I’m letting her know that the only approval she needs is her own
I am choosing to accept now that this is how my mum is
She has her own limitations
That are nothing to do with me
Her behaviour is actually nothing to do with me
I’m letting go of any expectations that she will change
I’m letting go of the past
I’m letting it all go now
I’m letting this go so that I can be free
I’m not a helpless child anymore
I am an adult and I make my own decisions
I am choosing to let the pain go
I am choosing to create my own boundaries
I get to choose what’s good for me
I get to choose what i will and won’t tolerate
Im choosing now to honour myself
I am choosing now not to let her criticism affect me
Because I approve of myself
I love and accept myself
And the more I love, approve and accept myself
The less I look for that outside of me
I am choosing now to heal that little girl within me
Letting her know that it is safe to let go of the pain
I am choosing now to let it go
I approve of myself
I validate myself
I support myself
I deeply and completely love and accept myself (repeat another two times)