'You should feel ashamed of yourself'

'You should feel ashamed of yourself'

If you experienced toxic, dysfunctional, unloving or emotionally abusive parenting, then you were consistently made to feel ashamed. It therefore became part of your subconscious programming, and - even an as adult - your subconscious belief is that there is something fundamentally wrong with you.

Perhaps you even heard things like, ‘You should be ashamed of yourself!’, or ‘Shame on you!’

The toxic shame stays buried within you, and it becomes a part of your identity.  

So, rather than seeing that you made a mistake, you believe you are a mistake.

You didn’t do something ‘bad’… you are innately bad.

You feel sorry and ashamed about who you are as a person.

I’m not good enough: 'Imposter Syndrome'

I’m not good enough: 'Imposter Syndrome'

Although our minds love to tell us that if we just had that additional qualification, if we had a bit more experience, if we took that online course… then we’d feel good enough; feeling like an imposter has nothing to do with those things. An extra piece of paper or a new title will not change the way you feel inside.

You don’t need another skill. You don’t need more training. You don’t need another book.

You need to work on your inner self; your mindset and your beliefs.

13 ways parental abuse is still affecting your life

13 ways parental abuse is still affecting your life

Are you aware of how past abuse is affecting your present life?

Those experiences may be negatively impacting your relationships, the decisions you make, the abundance you attract, your confidence, happiness and quality of life…

How many of these behaviours are true for you?

Dealing with self-doubt

Dealing with self-doubt

Well, I am human, and I struggle with the human aspects of my self. My ego, self-doubt and self-sabotage. Feeling not good enough, judging myself as unworthy. 

I know that the only thing stopping me living out the full expression of my soul in this lifetime is me. 

But moving through my own bullshit takes daily work.